I hear this phrase used by people who are wondering what the meaning of life is. They seem confused. It is my experience that when we know who we are and what we feel and need, we are not confused by the meaning of life. As children and babies, when our emotional and physical needs are met we feel carefree in life. When we have unmet need, we hurt inside and our body remembers…whether it is words, feelings or sensations. Our bodies are amazing in that it really wants to heal when we allow ourselves to acknowledge and have the opportunity to process our feelings and experiences. domain renewal We are then more alive and are not confused about the meaning of life. We are living it.
When we hold our feelings, we create tension in our body. Eventually the accumulation of held feelings causes our body to be unwell in one way or another. Unconsciously, we develop coping mechanisms to deal with our held emotional pain such as unhealthy eating, drugs, and over consumption of alcohol. Some of these mechanisms we actually choose while others occur automatically. Hidden fears can show up as anxiety and unexpressed feelings can turn to depression. Our body gives us the information we need, we just need to listen to the signals… it is vital to our emotional health. Therapy can support you to process held feelings and increase emotional health and physical wellness. When we repress or hold feelings they accumulate and eventually become too much to handle. With support you can learn to process your feelings step by step. You can begin with what is troubling you today and then delve into the past as needed to resolve unfinished feelings that are running an unconscious loop and waiting for lasting resolution.
Writing letters directly to the person you are feeling angry toward can help to process your intense feelings and reactions to a situation. This is for you to begin to allow yourself your feelings and to process them in a safe way. When we have an over-reaction or under-reaction to a situation or person today, it is a red flag that unfinished feelings from the past are affecting the current situation. It is helpful in your own privacy to process what you are feeling today and begin to open to unresolved feelings from the past.
Once you have expressed all that you feel in your letter, allow yourself to reflect whether this is a familiar feeling for you and other situations where you felt similar. Continue writing to those people that pop up. A gentle reminder, that these are not letters to be sent. This is an opportunity for you to process your feelings and truth in a safe environment. Eventually as the rawness of your feelings dissipates, you may want to have a further conversation with the person you were feeling angry toward or a trusted friend or counselling professional.