Our defenses are an indication of emotional pain that lies beneath. It is a cue that there is something for us to feel and heal. Our defenses saved us as children growing up however they work against us as adults. Respecting our defenses and in our own time feel our pain that has been buried deep within, will allow us to heal so that we are no longer driven by this pain. Feeling through our feelings allows us to live more freely as adults in the present.